Drawing my lines in the Sand


Drawing my lines in the Sand (my own personal experience) 

I have come believe that throughout much of my life I have drawn lines in the sand.  Lines of doubt, crippling fear, confusion, agony, imprisonment, lack, suffering, regret, frustration and more.  I had to ask myself why, why on earth would this happen to a little kid, why me?  So full of innocence, love, imagination so carefree and pure, ready to embark on this new adventure called life. Did I have blinders on? Or was my vision impaired in some way, a way that eluded me for so very many years.

I found out that trauma, shame, guilt and anything else that robs us of our inner peace sabotages us from aligning with our true nature. These false beliefs and so-called limitations that we have innocently bought into for some reason or another begin to diminish our human spirit piece by piece.  This can happen for many people- but the very good new is…things can absolutely change for the better.

Believing with unwavering faith, trust and a knowing that a much bigger force of love is at work here helped me to breathe easier.  It has taken me much strength and resiliency to embrace a difficult journey and rise above all the challenges to now hold my head up high  with a big smile on my face. If I can do it, so can you, just by putting one foot in front of another each and every day.

At an important age of 47, a very pivotal point in my life, I every so gently took back  my control of living unconsciously for so many years.  I began stepping into my power and making a commitment and promise to take the time and unwavering determination to make big shifts and small shifts, whatever it took to make sense from the whole picture that was playing for 47 years. It was one tissue at a time, one journal entry at a time in my 10+ books and connecting with spirituality in ways I could have never imagined. In addition I began stepping into service of giving and that really has helped to turn my around as to what important and where to focus my time and precious energy.

The other side of the line….

is happiness, joy, peace, gratitude, forgiveness, love, abundance, nourishment, support etc. I speak for myself here, but now I very clearly understand and know that my emotional pain, and trauma were a necessary part of my unraveling to the understanding of who I am why I am here. My adversity had to open up the inner child…. you know….the child in ALL of us who sometimes screams out for attention and acknowledgement wanting to be honored and loved. She wanted to hear the words “it all going to be ok I am here for you no matter what.” I’ve got you back and we are in this together” For the first time in my there seemed to be a voice and I could hear it!!! Who is that talking to me?  It was the quiet assured voice of my higher self (source, higher consciousness, God, wisdom, there are many names for this powerful force of LOVE) and it was clear, peaceful, and most loving. This voice of intuition/guidance is there for everyone.  But, we have to take the time to connect with the voice of love-and when when we do our life changes dramatically for the better. (I have discussed this in past blogs, so feel free to find out some ways you can connect with your true essence).

Everyone spiritual awakening does not need to have tumultuous circumstances as I did, as your journey is most uniquely designed with the perfection of your soul’s agenda and evolution expansion.  My hope is that you always bask in the journey of mystery  and wonder opening yourself to the truth of your beauty and creativity by living your completeness with intention, purpose and passion….and course Love…. always Love…

Follow the Breadcrumbs…

Things in life are on an “as we need to know” basis. Life does not come with the book of directions although sometimes that  seems quite appealing.
Every bread crumb  that we are given is one more step in the direction of expanding into a higher level of awareness.
Our path may lead to us to have many questions about why things happened in the past and what’s going to happen in the future. Although this can be most compelling, wisdom reveals that if we stay stuck in these ongoing patterns, we are innocently losing sight of the precious “present moment” right on front of us.

The divine design of each experience brings forth exactly what we need to know at the perfect time when we need to know, not a moment sooner or a moment later…If what we wanted showed up earlier or later we would not be completely able to receive it at our most opportune time. 

Understandably, disheartening setbacks, disappointments and dreams that fail to materialize on our timeline are all an inevitable part of human existence. That why is most important to remember that our journey is perfectly & purposely orchestrated in a way to help us handle whatever lies before us  (in the present moment) with grace and ease.

I wonder could we could just give up the need to control this and surrender to our inner wisdom. The thought of this may frighten many of us, and we may not feel safe, so we try to control a perfection that is already laid out and in doing so, we sometimes become our worst enemy.
By simply following the natural order of the present moment our life can move along much smoother because we begin to realize we are quite safe exactly where we are. This means we have to completely trust the process, let go of the fear and step into courage which by the way, is our natural state of being.

We are given the gift of time to listen to the quiet voice of our intuition and then move forward with conscious intention. It really means letting go of the reins of how we think all should go and just surrender the fact that a higher power has our best interest at heart. Now that doesn’t mean we don’t take part in the co- creative process, our free will allows us to respond with dignity and make choices to stand forth in our highest integrity, value and ethics.

I have come to believe when we trust in the process, we allow ourselves to let go of what we think we know. The mind is limited since it only basis relies on its on what it has experienced, where as our higher self/spirit/God Is unlimited and can see all outcomes. Wisdom always trumps all mind experiences with the highest level of soul maturity.

Although each bread crumb we are gifted with may seem to be slowly materializing, it is steady, and, when we maintain our patience and let faith lead the way -victory is the Inevitable outcome!


***Friends, I am sending blessing of well-being for every one as we navigate through this pandemic United in Love…

The Universe Has a Plan

20200515_152513I spend many hours mindfully and intentionally going within my heart, and today provided to be no different. As I was quietly contemplating life sitting in my comfortable lounge chair, I faced towards the rock wall that decorated my beautiful back yard. So many rock formations of all shapes and sizes; some are really very large and some are tiny. Even the smallest of stones are intermixed under the largest of rocks which I found to be quite interesting. Could these little stones be part of the whole support system in the rock wall? The flawlessness of nature always amazes me. It Synchronizes everything in the most perfect spot, cohesively and with such simplicity, beauty and uniqueness. Up to this point in time I haven’t noticed the beauty of this structure, even though I have spent countless times in my backyard. Today felt different, it was as if revelations of truth aspired to be revealed. My thought process just decided to halt and venture into the stillness of the moment. This is where our intuition, mystery and spark of creativity arises and I was right there receiving it with open arms.

Metaphorically speaking, we are all unique individual expressions of a grand whole. and, every part we play in our life experience provides a tremendous puzzle piece to a greater and grander picture. Although many times we question things, I have come to believe that nothing is out of place-all is perfectly integrated into the life we are meant to have in fulfilling our highest potential. That include the joys, adversities and everything in between. As we align with our deepest stillness we can access our truth of integrity, ethics and value, realizing that this inner perfection is always at work on our behalf -even if we can’t see it, feel it, taste it, or touch it.

Just as each rock is significant, and meant to be in its specific place human beings are the same.  When we embody this, we begin to open the doors of knowing our tremendous value. Every circumstance, event and relationship that touches us is meant to help mold and shape us into realizing the truth of who we are. Nothing is by accident; it is the Eternal dance with the ebb and flow of our intricate journey.

The foundation of our choices helps to create our reality.  It is important to ask ourselves this question, Are the Choices I am making aligning with the value I want to demonstrate or am we settling for less?  May I suggest we all take a deep dive at how we are choosing to live our life … Do our choices align with foundation of our heart centered nature?  If so, that is wonderful keep shining; And, if not consider reevaluating your mindset because you will eventually realize that your choices are a demonstration of who you are, and how you choose to show up in this world. Let your Intuition gently guide you, as there’s no turning back- only a facing forward towards your grandest destiny.

The Universe has a plan and by being your best self you will witness the strength and resiliency that lies within you and rise above whatever life brings forth.



The Weight Loss Struggle

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As far back as I can remember I had always been struggling with weight. Ever since my college years I lived in yo-yo patterns. I innocently knew I have spent much too time criticizing how I look, (often repeating patterns from others that I experienced throughout much of my early life). All the bullying and cruel words took quite a toll on my self-esteem and the confidence I had with myself and my body. Does this sound familiar to you? It doesn’t have to be bullying, it can be another form of pain and hurt that occurred in your life, and it still there showing up as extra emotional weight which many times=physical weight.

Fast forward 59 years later, I have spent many hours reading books, taking courses, attending events, repeating affirmations, and doing my best to hold positive thoughts about my body image. It feels as though I have exhausted every possibility, limiting belief, negative thought, family karma, and inherited ancestral baggage, not to mention exhaustive research about genes/biology and its effect on the body.

I eat very healthy, mostly organic food and drink, and, I avoid preservatives, additives and processing in food. I exercise 4-5 times per week and meditate with discipline.

I asked myself this question?  Do I give up after all of these painstaking years of effort? No, not just yet…. I have always had a strong will to find out answers so I am determined to uncover this mystery.

I decided to pick up yet another book which, I will say, stands apart for other things I already have read. Being an avid Energy Medicine Practitioner I decided to visit the “EFT Approach”- one, which I’m very familiar with…To my surprise I was delighted to finally have an ah-ha moment. The tears ran down my face when this was revealed.

The words rang true from the pain of the past. I thought to myself, “didn’t I let go of this stuff years ago, apparently it’s still haunting me, ugh…”

Apparently, the emotional pain was deeply ingrained in my inner child, I guess it felt safer to protect her rather than sink down into painful feelings even though they were crying out loud to be acknowledged. As Oprah once said “Don’t let the whispers turn into screams.”  And, that is exactly what they did.

The cold hard truth was: I didn’t allow myself to lose the weight because it just didn’t feel safe to do so. When I had my most shapely and sexy figure I was in high school and college. But now at 59 years of age I finally allowed the memories to be heard and they came flooding back to remind me of the horrendous bullying I had experienced in school and in the neighborhood- in fact our whole family was bullied. How could I find the strength to relive this again??  Did I actually buy into all of terrible lies? Apparently, I did.

I now choose to forgive everyone and everything so that I can be free of this suffering. Let me clearly state that it doesn’t mean I condone everyone’s despicable actions and words; it just means I wanted peace from the hurt and pain. So, I am freeing the negative memories and experiences.  I am consciously choosing to forgive all experiences, including forgiving myself for buying into this B.S.  I do it to liberate my heart into a happier, healthier way of being. I came to understand that at my young age I hadn’t developed enough emotional maturity, strength and resiliency that I do now, so I lived  out most of my life with this painful past, haunting me.

In retrospect I it  made me who I am today. Happy, Proud, Authentic, Empathetic and Peaceful day to day. I am much better able to cope and nourish myself with the words that I never heard from loved ones. Please remember to speak to yourself with kindness, gentleness and love, it will help you to move along life’s journey with confidence and courage. I now live free of regret, guilt, blame, resentment, etc.…  As I have survived the past and truly understand that even the worst of circumstances are always here to help all of us develop into stronger, more resilient, compassionate beings; much better able to navigate life’s ups and downs.

Trauma can be devastating and when it is suppressed (unconsciously) it can reap difficulties throughout our life experiences. I came to realize how my history helped to cement beliefs that kept me in a place of needing to protect myself. My belief told me- that keeping on this extra weight would protect me from being judged, criticized, and demoralized. This was a complete misunderstanding, and it took me many years to get to the bottom of this…

Since I didn’t want to be the like the same perpetrators who caused so much pain, I had to approach my heart with tenderness, kindness, and self -love. Then with pen in hand I wrote down the reasons I felt the way I did and unknowingly to me words poured out onto the paper with tears of relief… now, ending the battle within myself.

I am para phrasing these words from the book the “Tapping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence” by Jessica Ortner 

I wanted to share this, and I hope it will provide to be helpful for others as it was for me…

“We often don’t realize how the weight is serving us, by allowing us to avoid emotional pain that we’re not comfortable facing. While on a conscious level we feel desperate to lose the weight, we’re often afraid to take steps forward; but when we do, we are often surprised by what we discover.”  Everything I discovered I used as the EFT tapping sequences that I said out loud to let go of finally heal.”

This next sentence in the book shed the light and the breakthrough I was hoping for…“Ask yourself this question do you really want to care about what everyone else thinks at the expense of your own happiness?”  I reread this sentence 3-4 times to fully digest it’s meaning.

Physical Weight has may ways it can manifest, my invitation to you is to explore and give yourself a break while doing so. Be honest, and be most willing to delve into your past. For some people it may be hard to do alone- so consider seeking the help of a professional to guide you through the deep waters and layers of emotional duress.

If I can do this, so can you- have faith, trust in the process and by all means be every so gentle with you heart, you’ve been through enough.  Instead, might I suggest to unconditionally love yourself inside and out for that’s the road to emotional freedom and internal liberation. And, maybe even shedding not only emotion weigh,t but possibly some physical weight as well…


21 Great Ways to feel more Relaxed, Peaceful and Connected to Yourself


1-Take a walk in the park

2-Sit next to a tree and maybe even consider hugging it

3-Listen to calming music that connects with heart

4-Practice some mindful yoga

5-Watch a funny movie laughter is a great way to lighten everything

6-Journal your feelings, an consider practice active writing.

7-Close/Open your eyes and practice some deep breathing For a few minutes, especially when feeling fearful and overwhelmed.

8- Spend time in nature, maybe even in a garden by beautiful flowering plants…

9- Consider calling some friends come and loved ones and have some conversation so you can still feel connected, nourished and loved

10- Meditate or  pray as a way to connect with the deeper essence of who you are

11-Soak in a warm deep tub to relax all your muscles and your mind

12- Go Jogging or Running

13- So something creative such as: painting, drawing, singing, or dancing-be your fun-loving self

14- Read a good book

15- Exercise, Stretch and practice mindful rhythmic movements                                                                                                                                                                        16-Unplug from emails, TV, and other computer activities-escape from the world if only for 15 minutes.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                17- Plan, prepare and put together a delicious new recipe for yourself. Dabble with new spices and other ways of cooking, experiment and be creative

18- Use your imagination for a short visualization-imagine your favorite place- maybe laying on the beach basking in the beautiful sunshine. Choose your favorite destination.

19- Make Love

20-Have a yummy snack that will fill you up- maybe a handful of nuts or avocado.

21-Buy yourself some beautiful flowers, maybe some roses or a favorite houseplant. Beside being a wonderful air purifier studies show they actually help you to calm down.

***All of us can relax and feel peaceful remember it all starts within us- do not look outside for peace as the external world can be very crazy at times. You are most capable of feeling peaceful despite outside circumstances, it all begins on how you feel on the inside.








Fill in the Blank

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While working in the health field for so many years, I had the luxury of spending time listening to many people including my friends and family. I observed one belief that was so prevalent back then and still exists today in many conversations. The belief was, “I’ll be happy when _____.”                                                                                                                           Consider filling in the blank for yourself. Is it that job?  That perfect relationship? Or maybe even winning the lottery. The answers are diverse and stretch across all corners of the imagination. Innocently, many of us including myself filled in this blank. Our thoughts patterns, experiences and conditioning seem to tell us that this could be the magic pill.  The answer to all of our dreams.  You may want to re-think this…

I find that conditioning from our culture and media support unrealistic expectations that we can’t be happy unless we have something in our midst. Think about it-we are consistently inundated with messages that health, happiness, joy, and lifelong fulfillment are all attained by something outside of us.  If you watch network television it is very obvious to see that more than 90% of the commercials are driven by pharmaceutical companies, telling us we need this or that to remain healthy. We are in need of cream to erase wrinkles or we will look old. And, probably one of the biggest fear-driven patterns is that” the more you age the more your body will break down” -with two centenarians, (people of age 100 or more) in my family those words don’t hold water… This are simply marketing ploys to keep people in fear-based thinking patterns. And, sadly many of these fear tactics are working.

I wonder when will we all realize that this insanity has to come to an end? How much more do we need to cycle in suffering and emotional pain from misunderstandings about life and about who we are; and most importantly why we are here during a most revolutionary time of Earth’s significant shift of consciousness.

Be aware that your life will play out from your beliefs and deeply ingrained patters of conditioning , so its time to dive and dive deep as you why you believe the way you do.  Ask yourself this question “Is the way I believe serving me or hindering my ability to move forward towards my deepest dreams and desires? If wonderful.  If not, it is time for contemplation and action to make healthier changes in your mindset that inspire, ignite and excite you! Let go of things that weigh you down and embrace your wisdom/intuition that makes you soar…

My heart believes things are definitely shifting and will continue to shift as people readily embrace the truth of their authentic being. People are now beginning to understand that nothing outside of us can make us feel a certain way, and if it does, it’s just temporary, it’s not a sustainable motivator– Love, Joy, and Inner Peace are sustainable.  If you fill in the blank with something that’s temporary you are setting yourself up for disappointment, sadness and confusion among other things.

Of course we will learn from the decisions we make and things will play out for your evolutionary growth and expansion. Life can be very tricky and throw us a lot of curve balls, but when we are aware/conscious we can stand back and look at things from a much broader perspective. As John Holland so eloquently stated “Intuition is the Compass of the Soul.”  The truth of that goes beyond explanation. Listen to your gut instincts not the fear-based mindset that this outside world is reflecting to us, the answers lie within each and every one of us.

Our entire culture is undermining the voice of the soul, if you truly want to live a most fulfilling life in alignment with your highest destiny it is time to courageously start taking your power back and listening to your inner voice.

This is not about pointing the finger and saying we don’t know what we are doing, it is about standing in our power by co-creating a life that is representative of our amazing benevolent nature.  We have to connect with the higher power that exists within us, friends…the wisdom has always been available to us…”seek and ye shall find.”

Spend quiet time with yourself, breathe and listen… there is a quiet voice that wants your attention, it has always been there guiding you whether you are aware of it or not. Don’t fill in the blank because you fear something will happen or not happen if you don’t get what you want, that just leaves you in a cycle of craziness.  Instead, might I suggest embrace the amazing you…

I have faith you can do this, and you will…… when you are ready…


Sweet Surrender


These words hold a tremendous amount of wisdom when you truly understand them and apply them in your life.  At age 60 I can say I finally I get it, maybe not everything, but certainly enough to guide to me on the trajectory of my souls’ highest destiny.
It’s not like a picnic in the park, or a constant gentle breeze of the wind.  Although I will say this wonderful serenity occurs from to time. However, this was not an ongoing experience for me. My past 60 years have been more like a roller-coaster with tremendous highs and lows, a never-ending thrill ride that leaves me picking up the pieces of my heart then gently putting them back together with the love and light that I’ve always been, but was unable to fathom most of the time.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?  Sometimes you think you’ve got it all together- it all lines up so perfectly then with one incident- one person, or one action, the proverbial straw now breaks the camel’s back and you have to start all over again. After disheartening patterns kept repeating themselves in my life, I finally realized it was high time to change my perspective, delve into new perceptions with an open heart, and connect with forgiveness beyond any reason. This sense of peace helped to lead me to the road of surrender.

I love alignment, its a reflection of the harmony within us while allowing a state of surrender. Did you know that this is our natural God given state of being? Nobody tells you this, your journey leads you to this unrelenting wisdom. Our “Sweet” Surrender does not need to control anything. We are simply giving way to a higher power and only stepping in when intuition guides us to do so. And, as a co-creator of our reality it our responsibility and conscious awareness to realize the truth of who we are. Then take the necessary steps to follow a unconditional path of love.

Do you realize how much happier, balanced, joyful and peaceful your life could be when you live from a state of surrender?  The universe (God) has our best interest at heart so why would we even doubt it?  Your external circumstances can give you a million reasons, BUT no good reason. Listen to your intuition the voice that know you and you deepest desires.  I can only tell you from experience and a variety of others conscious people I know utilize this healthy, optimistic mindset and it brings relaxation and a lighthearted, carefree, way of living. I believe everyone’s life can benefit when we allow and surrender for life to unfold its blessings.  Whether these blessings feel good or not it all holds gifts of opportunity for us to grow.  You are a conscious creator of your reality so jump it, allow and breath through every experience.

Observe or Absorb

This is where I want you to pay particular attention. When you understand and embody the fact that you are a being of light having a physical experience you can then “observe” what is happening rather than “absorb” all of the negativity and lower energies on this highly dense planet.  It takes a tremendous amount of courage, and perseverance to hold this light all the time, but when you do, all aspect of your life will shift for the better. We are all worthy and deserving of the best that life has to offer, so why do we ever settle for less? We are absorbing energies of misperceptions an misunderstandings about who we are…

Next is a process one of many which I use whenever life brings forth difficult feelings and/or circumstances.
Wish I could take credit for this but it goes to Dear Dr. Kim DE’ramo as she was instrumental in this process. Thank you for helping to change my life for the better. For that I remain eternally grateful.

1) Center yourself by taking 5 to 10 deep breaths eyes closed…

2) Whenever I’m going through dark times I get my pad and paper write down exactly how I feel and the energy that I’m feeling in my body – For example I feel frustration, guilt, anger hatred etc.. in this moment.

3) Then I remind yourself “I am a being of light and the emotions that are flowing through me are not mine (the are from the density on the planet) and I am letting them go so I am free of the pain.”

Friends you HAVE to give all these emotions a voice so the energy can flow through you. And you have to breathe throughout the whole process

The next important set step is to remind yourself the important words. “I am expanding and allowing the light to flow through me to embody the wholeness and completeness that I am and have always been.

*Watch the magic as you feel lighter by allowing these negative energies to be transformed/transmuted.

I can tell you this technique works flawlessly when you follow it with intention.

In essence, you are not allowing yourself to absorb the energy and take on all of the sadness frustration, crying disappointment, etc. You are truly just giving the deepest emotions acknowledgement to be heard and to flow freely out of your energetic field, so that you can feel much better.

Now I may not know all of the details of how this miraculous technique works, I just know it does. So just as Dr, Kim passed it on to me, I am passing it on to you with much unconditional love and respect for you and your journey.



“I Matter”

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Do I matter because I?               (you can fill in the blanks for yourself)

-Survived many years of bullying throughout my adolescence and into college?

-Got married, and brought three beautiful children into the world?

-Made a decision not to be disrespected any more in a 29 year old marriage and moved  on as an act of self -love, self- respect, and tremendous courage?

-Went to college and graduated with a degree?

-Once had a lucrative career as a therapist?

-Survived a very dysfunctional childhood and family life?

-Survived sexual abuse and emotional abuse?

-Move away from the only home I knew- to believe and realize in a vision much bigger than myself was ready to be birthed?

-Wrote 4 published books about spiritual awakening?

-Bought a new car?

-Bought a new home?

-Am an intuitive, psychic being?

-Have more material things than others?

-Am taller, smarter, compassionate, and generous?

-Have fewer material things than others?

-Have more or less friends?

-Make a lot of money?

–Don’t make a lot of money?

My friends you get the message, here right? All of these things are temporary, yes, they are your experiences and deserve your attention, understanding, compassion and acknowledgement, but they are NOT who you are by any means, just a small glimpse of your human journey.

Can we wrap our heads around the fact that we are not our experiences?  We are the experiencer, of them. Please, I do not want to diminish them in any way, I am just bringing forth our eternal wisdom reminding us that all of these experiences are temporary, they are “our” present life reality.

Did you know that…

Our lives is so richly laid out with a unique divine plan helping us to embrace hardships that spark and initiate us to remember what we’ve forgotten and are now here again to remember and fully realize. Things such as: self- love, forgiveness, empathy, self-respect, honesty, generosity, serenity/calmness, frustration, despair, unity consciousness, humility, low self-esteem, joy, wholeness/completeness, etc.

When we are embodying all these truths, everything changes. Our perspectives, Our behaviors, Our actions and Our words; in other words, Our Whole Beingness comes to life in the fullness of our soul’s highest destiny.  Sometimes this takes a lifetime or lifetimes to integrate and embody the essence of who we are.  It is a process of “remembering” that our soul has agreed upon so very long with a commitment and willingness to come down on this earth plane in love of ourselves and humanity. We are all so very courageous.

Our life journey is all about remembering the wisdom that is our natural state of being.  Our life lessons are diverse and filled with so many emotions.  And, as challenges arise, they are always here to help us strengthen any weaknesses and uncover what is hiding and/or being suppressed in the shadows of untruth, and misunderstanding. This is so pure and simple when we see it through the eyes of our higher self/awareness.

It time to realize…

You matter just because you are you. That’s it, no long speech, not explanation of why, why why? A very simple pure truth.  Just by your existence YOU MATTER. No one can do what you do the way you do it.  We are a unique expression of the divine, how amazing is that!

Oh, and I might add, this is not by coincidence or happenstance, we are intentionally on this planet at this time, in this space and dimension of our earth’s deepest awakening with absolute divine purpose.  

                       “Thank you for being you and doing what you do”

All for Love….